Sensitive disclosures after divorce have proved to be delicate issues in many countries. Parents especially mothers tend to disclose their emotional problems to their children. Adolescents especially are the main receivers of these emotions. Mothers feel that their ex-husbands leave them out, and this is the reason why they try to win the attention of their children. They want sympathy and understanding from their children that their father (the woman’s ex-husband) is an insensitive person.
The article is a critique on various issues that parents disclose to their children after a divorce. It explains how disclosing sensitive matters after disclosure can affect the psychology of the child either at the current moment or later. The article also discusses the effects that financial issues affect the adolescents. The article focuses on disclosing sensitive issues after divorce to adolescents. Parents tend to disclose vital information especially after divorce to adolescents. The reason could be that these children are available or live with their parents. They are, therefore, recipients of their mother’s frustrations. Mothers are normally given primary custody of their children after divorce. Mothers are, therefore, the people who disclose these sensitive issues to their adolescent children (Silverberg, 2004 page 47).
The article critique
The purpose of the author of this article is to enlighten parents to avoid disclosing sensitive matters to their adolescent children. Adolescents are sensitive children and many factors affect their development into maturity. The author intends to the divorced parents to leave their children out of sensitive issues. This stage is critical in a child’s maturity. Any psychological frustrations will affect the child’s maturity. It is, therefore, necessary that mothers do not discuss sensitive issues with their adolescent children. They should discuss such issues with other adults who are in a better position to understand the situation. The questions asked are jstified. They are also well elaborated in the article. For example, the question on whether gender act as a moderator between maternal disclosures and adolescent’s difficulties illustrate that gender is not a moderator between the two issues. The writer explained the questions.
The authors’ findings are credible. This is because he uses the scientific approach in finding out facts on sensitive disclosures after divorce. He identifies the problem, which are sensitive disclosures after divorce. He finds a sample of adolescents whose parents have divorced. He then analyses the effects that these sensitive disclosures have on them. He uses the findings from his research to make conclusions. The findings of this research conclude several things on the adolescent child and sensitive disclosures. The findings have persuaded me to think that these adolescents are sensitive people. It is, therefore, not acceptable for parents to keep on releasing their emotions to them. The adolescence stage is acutely sensitive and in most cases, affects the child’s maturity if not well taken care.
The conclusions on this article are reasonable. They are also supportive of other research on the same issues. For example, recent research findings prove that mothers disclose sensitive matters on finance to their children. The findings also conclude that in the event of disclosing sensitive matters to adolescents they suffer from adolescent difficulties. These findings also found out that enlisting an adolescent especially a daughter as a confidant might harm the child’s emotional well being.
The findings of this research have been generalized. That is a small population of adolescents, whose parents have divorced, was selected. The author, therefore, bases his findings on a small sample. However, these findings are what reflect the problems of other adolescents going through the same problem. Some of these groups of adolescents do not feel constrained to be their mothers’ confidants. As the research found out, adolescents whom are older especially those between the age of sixteen to twenty one are not affected by the diisclosures. However, those who are between eleven and fifteen are affected by their mothers’ disclosures. They develop emotional problems because they are not emotionally strong for such sensitive information. This would apply to the young adolescents. Parents should not disclose sensitive information to young adolescents between 11-15 years (Silverberg, 2004 page 50).
The implication for working with adolescents is that a researcher has to be ready for rebellion from the teenagers. Some refuse to participate in the research that is by withholding vital information. Others do not care about the disclosures that the parents provide them. For example, in this research, some questionnaires sent to mothers and adolescent daughters on issues regarding sensitive disclosures show that the adolescents did not fill in but instead were filled by different parties. This therefore, hindered crucial information that would have been necessary in concluding this research.
This article has strengths and weaknesses. The main strength is that it has formed the basis for research on the issue by other authors. That is the research has enabled authors and parents to apply the information in this article. Secondly is that the article echoes the findings of other researchers thus making it even stronger on its findings. The weakness is that the article does not give recommendations for other researchers, which they can use to further research (Silverberg, 2004 page 53).
The findings in this research apply to different groups. The adults and adolescent educators should incorporate in their programs ways in which adolescence deal with disclosures after divorce. They should also educate parents not to disclose extremely sensitive matters to their adolescent children.
To conclude, sensitive disclosures after divorce should be handled with care because it is a delicate matter. Parents should not make their adolescent daughters as their confidants because it might affect the adolescence emotional development.