Child disciplining involves a set of rules, rewards and punishments administered to teach self control, increase desirable behaviors and decrease undesirable behaviors in children. Disciplining aims at moulding the child into a respectable adult.. The aim is to enable the child differentiate right from wrong, how to accord other people their due respect, the desirable behaviors in the society, keep the children safe, enable the children to nurture self control and equip them with sufficient skills to handle future stresses of life (Miller, 2001). Each of the above purposes works hand in hand to ensure that the child grows into a mature person, who fits well in the society.
Disciplining helps children learn appropriate behavior and self-control. The freedom and liberty they grow in, coupled with the challenges they face and the exposure they encounter is important. It is during childhood that a foundation for one’s life is laid. Therefore, it is critical to ensure that they gain morally and socially accepted norms and values within their system. The environment gives them the appropriate atmosphere to learn. It also gives the parents appropriate atmosphere to evaluate the progress of their children and in-calculate in them the right norms.
Disciplining provides a clear-cut avenue to safe livelihood and sufficient self control. Children ought to grow up into people capable of supporting themselves. To achieve this, they ought to be able to understand what is good for them and what is not (Miller, 2001). Th children’s personal judgment and decision making will soon be called into action. In addition, they ought to be able to carefully handle different people and situations due to the diversity in the world. Security is guaranteed where there is peaceful life.
There are various methods of disciplining children. They aim to either reinforce good behavior or discourage bad habits from flourishing. The methods include; rewards, punishment, positive reinforcement, spanking and ‘time-outs.’ They aim to develop and consolidate good behavior. These include rewards, privileges and positive reinforcement. Others discourage undesirable acts and include punishment, ‘time-outs’ and spanking. The aim is to ensure that the child takes up only those mannerisms acceptable to them.
Rewards and positive reinforcement encourage good behavior. Rewards may be in the form of special treatment, material things, higher places, warm reception and extra attention. Good comments and supporting a child’s idea endorse the kind of engagement as a strong and wonderful undertaking and are indicators of a child heading towards the right direction (Crary, 1993). Punishments and ‘time-out’ indicate radical measures aimed at forcefully inducing the right behavior. Punishment involves verbal warnings and disapproval, frowning, temporary exclusion (Crary, 1993).
Though the purposes of disciplining the child never differ, age dictates the best method to use. The age of the child should dictate the method to use. The parent should be a role model too. They should be able to teach and provide attention. They should also live by whatever they teach their children but not the contrary. By designing a systematic approach to ensure successful upbringing, parents will have their work cut out rather than let situations dictate to them what they ought to do.